Almost Enough Isn't Enough

What happens when a relationship isn’t terrible, but it still isn’t enough?

For years, Susanne tried to understand why a relationship that looked good on paper could leave her feeling so alone. There was love, companionship, travel, laughter and a long history together. There was also distance, disappearing intimacy and conversations about the relationship that never seemed to go anywhere.

So Susanne did what she had always done: researched, analyzed, and accommodated. She tried to fix it.

Learning about attachment styles finally gave her language for what was happening between them. But it also revealed something much more uncomfortable. She had spent so much time trying to understand his behaviour that she had stopped asking what the relationship was doing to her.

In this episode of The Story Beneath, Susanne explores anxious and avoidant attachment, overfunctioning, emotional safety, and the difficult work of identifying your own needs after a lifetime of taking care of everyone else's.

Because sometimes love is real, the good memories are real, and the relationship still isn't enough.

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